Come on ladies, let’s dish about taking dirty….
In my younger days I found it challenging to talk dirty. Although I was capable of doing some really naughty things, (you’ve seen this blog…I have been very naughty) explicit dialogue still made me blush.
Why is that?
I mean, I could be in the middle of fucking someone who had me pinned to the wall of his girlfriend’s dorm room, but uttering the words, “fuck me harder” escaped me. I couldn’t say “bad things” like that. The utterance of the word cock, dick or god-forbid, pussy, made me shudder with shame. It’s almost as if I was a slutty prude. I could screw with the best of them, but couldn’t talk the talk. It was a real obstacle for me.
I was a proper and polite Southern woman,who just couldn’t narrate the porn scenes she was living.
It took a real Southern gentleman to help me bring out my inner voice. And finally…finally…I was able to say it all. He cussed like a sailor, but always addressed me as “ma’am” and his charm helped to inspire me to learn the language.
So, what do you do if you don’t know how to talk dirty?
How do you begin?
For me, it was easiest to narrate the situation. If he had me bent over the bed and was plowing me from behind, I may say something like…”You feel so good fucking me like this.”
As I began to learn my own slutty language, I would expound on it by saying, “You feel so fucking good. I love how you fuck me from behind.” (A bit more explicit and passionate.)
As I morphed into a dirty-talking whore, I would say something like, “Your cock feels so fucking good. Fuck my wet pussy. That’s your pussy, fill it up lover. Please don’t stop fucking me….” (Porn star banter)
So to recap, in the beginning…just narrate the scene. Make it your own. Be natural. Your first attempt may be something like, “I love how you take what’s yours…” That’s still very compelling and sexy. Remember, raunchy language is optional. The most important thing is to be yourself. But do try to be a more vocal, less proper version of yourself.
As you become comfortable with narrating…venture into requests/commands. This is where the “fuck me harder, daddy” or “give me all that hard cock” type of phrasing comes in. This type of dialogue is usually exchanged in the heat of passion…it may be right before an orgasm. Let this come naturally to you. Think of what you want…what you need to get you ‘there” and say it loud and proud.
Express yourself. Tell your lover what feels good. Tell them what you want. Don’t mince words. This is your chance.
One of my favorite ways to talk dirty is to surprise him by whispering little naughties in my lover’s ear…when we are in public. I love to lean over to kiss him and then whisper something like, “my panties are soaked thinking about how badly I want to ride you tonight” or my personal favorite, ” I wish I could drop to my knees right here. I have a taste for your cock in my warm mouth.” This type of verbiage will send him into oblivion. I am guaranteed a fun night when I drop these hints.
Like most things, it’s all about the attitude. Feeling confident allows you to find your voice.
Another way to introduce dirty dialogue is to engage in role play. I adore role play. There is something about going into “character” and channeling that personality that makes it very exciting. I really enjoy playing a defiant school girl, who is a bit lippy to her teacher. My banter is filthy in this scenario and believe me, I get more than detention.
Why not try it out? Say something completely “un-lady-like” in his ear after dinner. Or when he has your legs on his shoulders, describe how wet you are, or how hard he feels. Tell him when you are about to cum. Verbalize it. Announce it. Claim it.
Give him some lip service and see how he responds. It’s likely you’ll be up late…and it’s even more likely you won’t be spending your time reading blogs. I am sure he will have other plans for you.